That’s right FEAR. Bet you thought I was going somewhere else with that, huh? Hehehe.
As I approach a surgery two weeks from today, I find myself being fearful and worriesome. Asking a ton of questions that I have no clue what the answer will be and neither does anyone else. So that brings me to the discussion of fear. The fears that many of us have and worry a great deal over, are absolutely not necessary. Don’t get me wrong fear can be healthy, right? It is certainly important that children fear running into the street for their own safety. However, as we advance in to adulthood, many of us carry fears that we don’t have to.
Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real
Often times we let worries spin out of control. We are unsuccessful in finding balance in our lives and we worry about money, bills, the future, etc. Fearing what might happen is also called the fear of the unknown and most of our fears fall into this category. Don’t we spend so much time worrying about the “what ifs”? That is exactly what I have found myself doing lately.
Worrying about how I will react to surgery? Will I recover fast? Will the kids be OK while I am in the hospital again? And on, and on, and on…
Then I was reminded that this overwhelming fear of the future, of what to come, isn’t real. What will come to pass over time, will still happen whether I worry about it or not. It is simply something I have no control over and I have no evidence that reinforces any of my fears about my surgery.
I am sure that wherever you are in your life, you experience some kind of fear of the future and maybe even spend a great deal of time mulling it over. My advice to you is to take a moment and look at the fear. Conquer it head on. Is there evidence that you should be fearing this particular item? While you examine your fears it may be helpful to…
To Kick fear to the curb!
1. Take time to be grateful- Having an Attitude of Gratitude makes it very difficult for fear to creep in. When we focus on the things that really matter and how blessed we are in this day, it is almost impossible to worry about tomorrow. Take some time to be thankful each day!
2. Take inventory of the fear- Are you able to control the outcome? If so step up and knock it out. For example: You are worried the phone bill won’t get paid in time. Instead of worrying about the due date, why not be proactive and look for solutions. What could you sell on craigslist or to the local consignment store that would help you pay that bill? Find ways to problem solve, where possible it will help to relieve you of the fear and increase your ability to critically think through issues.
3. Have a positive attitude- This is really easy… Just be optimistic! It is sometimes easier said than done, but when you take the time to intentionally place positive thoughts into your thinking. They eventually become the norm and you may find yourself having far fewer negative thoughts that fear once brought to mind.
Ultimately, to conquer the fear of the unknown, that so many of us struggle with, we must simply Let go of Fear! Therefore…
This Tuesday’s”To-do”odle: Don’t let fear take root in your life!
Our lives have been designed so that we don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, or next year. And when we spend our time worrying about the future, what is to come, then we miss out on life. Don’t sit on the sidelines in the Game of Life, get out there and play and leave fear behind!
From my Adventures,
28. June 2011 at 12:37 pm
Love this Heather! Well said! Thanks so much for sharing! You are right, I think a lot of people spend too much time worrying about things… they should just be enjoying life!
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28. June 2011 at 1:40 pm
Love it! So true! Lots of folks out there spend more time worrying about things they have no control over. Life is too short. Enjoy life while you can. Thanks for sharing Heather.
28. June 2011 at 3:53 pm
Love it Heather…..worry gets us no where, except to a place of more worry…..If “if’s and butts” were candies and nuts…we’d all have a fabulous Christmas haha…thanks again for the reminder
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28. June 2011 at 5:54 pm
Heather this is such a good post! So real too, sometimes we let fear rule our lives and that’s not a fun or productive way to live. Praying for your upcoming surgery!!
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28. June 2011 at 6:40 pm
Thanks for the thoughts Sabrina! I know it will be just fine… not going to let fear creep in that is for sure!
28. June 2011 at 6:05 pm
Thank you for this Heather. It’s true that our fear can keep us paralyzed. Here’s to facing it head on, pushing past it, and growing!
28. June 2011 at 6:34 pm
Thank you for sharing. If ever there was a day I needed this, it would be today. Couple issues in my life that frustrate me, yet also have the worry/fear effect on me. Blessings to you & yours for being willing to share what you also deal with!
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28. June 2011 at 6:39 pm
Jennifer… you already know the answer for you is to let go and let God! Thoughts to you and your family girl!
1. July 2011 at 4:15 pm
Great article Heather. It has taking me so long to finally realize this! Working on the new me without the unecessary worries and fears. Prayers to you on your surgery and speedy recovery.
1. July 2011 at 5:50 pm
Thanks Diane! It does take a while to really practice it!
1. July 2011 at 11:12 pm
Love this Heather! Sometimes kicking “fear” is the hardest thing to do. Thanks for sharing this!
2. July 2011 at 5:59 am
Yes, I have to admit that your title got my attention.
Wonderful article! Thank you for reminding us how important it is to let go of fear and re-focus in every area of our lives. Praying for you to have a quick recovery! 